I HAVE EXCITING NEWS!
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Announcing my NEW venture*, This Is Not What I Signed Up For, LLC, an online portal dedicated to helping you find balance through holistic mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
Don't worry, the services you love aren't going away, they are just being expanded.
We continue to use a HIPPA compliant tele-health platform for all sessions called Doxy.me.
(It does not require you to download any software.)
(It does not require you to download any software.)
*Please note ALL offerings found at thisisnotwhatisignedupfor.org will be REPLACING ALL OFFERINGS and the business/practices represented on this website. All services will be provided as listed through This Is Not What I Signed Up For, LLC and Narrow Gate Counseling as it currently exists here will not longer remain operational. Please refer to our new disclaimer, privacy policy, and terms & conditions as we've transitioned over to this new business. Thank you for your patience, understanding and continued support.
How gracious he will be when you cry for help.
As soon as he hears, he will answer you.
Isaiah 30:19
Listening is an art & my ministry.
We live in a world where everyone is connected, so why do so many people feel just the opposite? Active, fully engaged, compassionate listening isn't just an art, it’s my ministry. When life is crashing in on all sides and well-intentioned advice and anecdotes just aren’t enough, someone who really listens can be a lifeline. My passion is to make every person I meet feel genuinely listened to and cared for. When we part, my prayer is that you are at least a little better off than when we met.
Temperament Counseling
If you're feeling hurt, discouraged or even considering giving up, you need help. I strive to provide a safe, caring place to discover how to live a life full of purpose, joy and contentment in any circumstances, while being true to the unique person you were made to be. Our office offers pastoral, temperament-based counseling, which was developed with the belief that we are all created by God as unique individuals. This form of counseling, pioneered by the National Christian Counselors Association, is Bible-based, scientifically supported and provides temperament evaluation results that have been proven over 95% accurate.
Biblical Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
We also use Biblical Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (BCBT) techniques. The theory of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is based on the idea that many of our difficulties stem from the way we think. Many believe that an event where something negative or hurtful affects us, causing emotional distress. However, BCBT and CBT would show us that it is not the event but a person’s belief about that event that causes the emotional disturbance. God's word says that we should bring every thought captive to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). We will help you see how the way you think affects how you feel, how you feel affects how you behave, how you behave affects how you think and feel about others and the promises of God. In short, it all begins with how we think. Proverbs 23:7 says, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is." Working together to examine unhelpful/ungodly thought patterns that may result in unwanted behavior and consequences, we can reclaim 2 Corinthians 4:8-10, "...we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed."
Temperament Counseling
If you're feeling hurt, discouraged or even considering giving up, you need help. I strive to provide a safe, caring place to discover how to live a life full of purpose, joy and contentment in any circumstances, while being true to the unique person you were made to be. Our office offers pastoral, temperament-based counseling, which was developed with the belief that we are all created by God as unique individuals. This form of counseling, pioneered by the National Christian Counselors Association, is Bible-based, scientifically supported and provides temperament evaluation results that have been proven over 95% accurate.
Biblical Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
We also use Biblical Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (BCBT) techniques. The theory of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is based on the idea that many of our difficulties stem from the way we think. Many believe that an event where something negative or hurtful affects us, causing emotional distress. However, BCBT and CBT would show us that it is not the event but a person’s belief about that event that causes the emotional disturbance. God's word says that we should bring every thought captive to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). We will help you see how the way you think affects how you feel, how you feel affects how you behave, how you behave affects how you think and feel about others and the promises of God. In short, it all begins with how we think. Proverbs 23:7 says, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is." Working together to examine unhelpful/ungodly thought patterns that may result in unwanted behavior and consequences, we can reclaim 2 Corinthians 4:8-10, "...we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed."
Temperament Therapy Is Completely Different
Instead of talking in circles, a common complaint of those who have tried therapy, temperament counseling helps you understand who you really are at your core. Understanding your temperament is the missing link so often missing from modern therapy as it provides a proven and measurable way to help you meet your personal needs in a healthy and productive way.
Often, introspection is an unreliable and unscientific method for understanding human behavior. However, through temperament analysis, you can understand your unique strengths, challenges, and motivations, while also revealing the unmet needs causing stress and conflict within you and in your relationships. Together, we can use temperament as a guide to help you recover from your past, while helping you make better, more informed choices in the future.
Understanding your temperament, and thus better understanding yourself, is an invaluable tool that can help limit guilt, shame, and sadness, while providing greater personal fulfillment, peace and joy.
Often, introspection is an unreliable and unscientific method for understanding human behavior. However, through temperament analysis, you can understand your unique strengths, challenges, and motivations, while also revealing the unmet needs causing stress and conflict within you and in your relationships. Together, we can use temperament as a guide to help you recover from your past, while helping you make better, more informed choices in the future.
Understanding your temperament, and thus better understanding yourself, is an invaluable tool that can help limit guilt, shame, and sadness, while providing greater personal fulfillment, peace and joy.
Understanding Temperament Needs Enables Lasting Change
Temperament therapy is based on the belief that you were purposefully made by God with your exact temperament, giving you a very special set of gifts, desires, talents, and struggles. Unlike tastes, moods, situations and even personalities, temperament is who we are at our core, it never changes.
After 22 years of research, Drs. Richard and Phillis Arno created a system that has been proven over 95% accurate, with clients reporting higher satisfaction as compared to traditional therapy. With your personal APS report, we determine your unique, inborn temperament in three areas: inclusion, control and affection.
After 22 years of research, Drs. Richard and Phillis Arno created a system that has been proven over 95% accurate, with clients reporting higher satisfaction as compared to traditional therapy. With your personal APS report, we determine your unique, inborn temperament in three areas: inclusion, control and affection.
The Root of It All
As the foundation of Temperament Counseling is Christian, we believe that attempts to meet our temperament needs apart from our relationship with God creates conflict. By attempting to meet our needs apart from God's plan, we expend too much energy meeting some needs while ignoring others, creating conflict, stress, and often, unhappiness.
The Missing Link
How you do (or do not) express your unique temperament can be affected by your upbringing, education as well as your personal relationship with God, or lack thereof. While temperament therapy is Christian-based, this system is also scientifically-proven and is absolutely applicable to anyone, regardless of faith or belief system. This office will never judge or discriminate.
Temperament determines how we interact with our environment and the people around us. Temperament also determines our perception and understanding of ourselves and of the people who love us. Often we learn or select behavior that is very different from our inborn temperament. We call this a "mask" as it only hides the true temperament. When the "mask" is dominant, a person's temperament needs are not met, and he/she feels stress and suffers conflict.
Temperament determines how we interact with our environment and the people around us. Temperament also determines our perception and understanding of ourselves and of the people who love us. Often we learn or select behavior that is very different from our inborn temperament. We call this a "mask" as it only hides the true temperament. When the "mask" is dominant, a person's temperament needs are not met, and he/she feels stress and suffers conflict.
The Challenges of Traditional Counseling
A famous doctor, Sigmund Freud, pioneered the modern day theory that we are all born a "blank slate" until environment and circumstance make us who we are. Just ask any parent and they will agree that their child was their own person from day one. It may surprise you to know that many modern counseling methods are still based on this "blank slate" kind of thinking Freud pioneered. Nature vs. nurture arguments abound while people continue to suffer.
The most common form of therapy used today, based on the work and ideas of Carl Rogers, is called "Person Centered Therapy." This technique encourages individuals that seek their own inner wisdom, facilitated by a professional, in order to grow and heal. In short, many find they are expected to "talk it out" and arrive at their own conclusions. Others spend countless hours learning "who is to blame" only to become stuck there without progressing towards healing by remaining stuck in the past.
At Narrow Gate Counseling, we offer a different approach.
The most common form of therapy used today, based on the work and ideas of Carl Rogers, is called "Person Centered Therapy." This technique encourages individuals that seek their own inner wisdom, facilitated by a professional, in order to grow and heal. In short, many find they are expected to "talk it out" and arrive at their own conclusions. Others spend countless hours learning "who is to blame" only to become stuck there without progressing towards healing by remaining stuck in the past.
At Narrow Gate Counseling, we offer a different approach.
Scripturally sound and scientifically proven temperament based pastoral counseling.
All original content © Narrow Gate Counseling, 2017-2021.
All original content © Narrow Gate Counseling, 2017-2021.
Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it. Matthew 7:13-14
LEGAL DISCLOSURE : Please note, your counselor is not a medical doctor or state licensed counselor, but voluntarily submits to the Code of Ethical Standards of the National Christian Counselors Association and operates under the exemption for members of the clergy who are called to serve in specialized ministry such as pastoral counseling.” The NCCA credentials are not equal to a “state license”. The authority that allows pastoral counselors to serve in pastoral counseling ministry, is their ministerial credentials, being licensed, commissioned or ordained as a minister and regular reporting of their ministerial duties to the body that bestowed their ministerial credentials upon them. We strongly advise maintaining a working relationship with a primary care physician and a psychiatrist or other state licensed mental health provider if recommended by your doctor. Call 911 for emergencies.
Ministerial commission via Connect Church. Ministerial credentials also via Universal Life Church.
God loves you.
This is a safe space to be heard.
You are welcome here.
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For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me. Matthew 25:35-36